1. ASKING PERMISSION
I am surrounded by
friends who are currently in a relationship. Don’ t get me wrong but I just don’t
get why they have to ask permission as to whether they can do things or go to
places with their friends. It’s like they’re asking permission to their lover
more than they ask their parents. (Makes sense right?)
And if their lover says ‘NO’, then
that’s the end of it. No buts, no explanations. If they do insist, they have to
prepare a 500+ slide as to why they have to do the activity or go to places with
their friends. AND the said friends should be approved of by their lover. If
the lover doesn’t like the friends, then it’s clearly a NO.
Okay, enough with the
rants. As an individual with the gift of single blessedness, we kinda don’t get
it. Why do you have to ask permission to do a movie marathon with your girl
friends? Or meet a former classmate whom you haven’t seen in years? You get my
point?
Well, as bitter as I
might sound right now, a part of me actually understands. You’re in a
relationship and there are rules that you have to follow. And you comply out of respect. Sure, it’s sweet that
your lover is being protective and all, but sometimes they tend to be a bit
overboard. This might sound cliché or something but isn’t love enough? Enough to
trust your lover? Forbidding them to do things, well for me, is like commanding
a possession. You shouldn’t tell them what to do but instead, guide them and
help them grow.
2.
#NOFREEDOM
In
connection with no.1, I’ve heard this from a lot of friends. “It feels like I
have no freedom”. Again, as a person given the gift of single blessedness, I
don’t get it. I don’t get why you still choose to stay in a relationship where you
have no freedom. Where you can’t do whatever you want. Because your lover will
be mad if you do this, or say that, or go to a particular place. You act as if
you lover sees and hears everything that you do. *sigh* I feel suffocated just
thinking about it.
But
then again. I try to understand. Thou it is hard. When I try to understand why,
it would always come down to love. It’s because you love the person. Because
you love them that’s why you play by their rules. You love them that’s why you
do everything they say even if it ruins the fun. You act as if they can see
your every move because you love them. OKAY OKAY. I get it.
That’s
something we, single people won’t understand. Because we’re not committed to
anybody. We don’t have anyone else to think of but ourselves. We get to do
whatever we want, whenever we want and we get to talk and be with whomever we
want.
I
indeed, am in no position to say this but you should trust your lover enough to
let them make their own decisions. Guide, not instruct. Give yourselves
freedom. Let each other have your own identities. Let them enjoy their own
companies. Let’s face it, The world doesn’t revolve around you. Let your
partner communicate with other people. Empower each other and let each other
experience things separately. Because if you’re really meant to be together,
then you have a lifetime to do and experience a lot of things together.
